Showing posts with label open adoption. Show all posts
Showing posts with label open adoption. Show all posts

Monday, February 22, 2016

Is Anyone Out There?: Finding Support as a Birth Mother

By: Nicole Strickland



Thirteen years ago, I left the hospital as a proud new mom. Unlike most new moms, though, I also left the hospital with empty arms and a broken heart, as I had just placed my newborn baby boy into the arms of his adoptive mom and dad.

I went home and, for weeks, just tried desperately to navigate this “new normal.” Having a baby is always a life-changing event, but most new parents are overwhelmed by around-the-clock feedings, diaper changes, and sleep deprivation. In my case, I was overwhelmed with grief, sadness, and solitude. Although my family and friends were supportive of my decision to place my child for adoption and sympathetic to what I was going through, most had no idea what I was really experiencing. I felt so alone, and for many weeks was struggling just to make it through my day-to-day activities.

Unlike many birth mothers, I did not place my child through an adoption agency. Instead, I placed through a private adoption attorney, who only provided me legal services. This meant I did not have a social worker or counselor at the agency to whom I could reach out.

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Thursday, November 20, 2014

The Changing Landscape of Adoption

Source: http://www.cafe.com/r/ca2ea311-d75c-4a1e-a071-3f83b4859fba/1/the-changing-landscape-of-adoption

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Ana Cruz (left), Cynthia Juarez (right), and their four-year-old child Tonali celebrate the approval of gay adoption in Mexico City in August 2010   © Ronaldo Schemidt/AFP/Getty

According to the nonprofit organization National Adoption Day, "more than 100,000 children in foster care [are] waiting for permanent families." And as society has changed, even globally (just consider how the traditional notion of what makes a "family" has evolved both socially and legally over the last ten years), the practice of adoption has transformed.

I spoke with Megan Lindsey, the director of public policy and education at the National Council for Adoption, about the specific ways relationships among people involved in the adoption process have changed—particularly when it come to "closed" versus "open" adoptions.

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Sunday, February 23, 2014

Open Adoption: Things to Consider Before the Search

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Patricia Martinez Dorner is an accomplished counselor, trainer, expert in mediation working with professionals and all member of the adoption triad.

Patricia Martinez Dorner MA, LPC, LMFT Adoption Counseling & Search

6701 Blanco Rd. #1120
San Antonio, TX 78216
Tel & Fax 210-341-2070
E mail: pdorner@satx.rr.com or complete request for more information

1. Trainings and Workshops

A professional speaker, Patricia is frequently invited as a keynote speaker. She is able to design a program to suit your needs and audience:

Trainings for professionals

Programs for adopted persons, birthparents, adoptive parents, persons interested in learning more about adoption

Some popular topics:

  • Talking with your Child About Adoption
  • Adoption is a Lifetime Experience
  • Navigating Open Adoption
  • Opening Closed and Semi Open Adoptions
  • Open Adoption with Special Needs Children
  • Understanding the Search and Its Impac
  • Learning the Ropes of Searching-for Agency Professionals
  • Ethics in the New Age of Adoption
  • Open Adoption - A Family Systems Approach
  • Am I Ready to Adopt?
  • Birthparents Never Forget - Fostering Empathy & Understanding
  • Birthfathers & Their Issues
  • The Impact of Infertility in Adoption

Can be presented in English and Spanish

2. Adoption Exploration

Whether you are an expectant parent or a prospective adoptive parent, it is very important that you expose yourself to the issues that you may experience when adoption is your choice. Learn the realities and complexities involved in the adoption experience of all parties through the years. Through personal and professional immersion, Patricia demonstrates sensitivity to all parties, realistically teaching the issues that are consistently present regardless of the type of adoption you may have or consider.

3. Search and Reunion Assistance

Whether you are actively searching or considering a search, Patricia offers you her expertise. An expert in the field, she offers preparation to consider the dynamics you may face no matter what role you have. She also will act on your behalf, searching, making the contact and helping you to walk through the stages of this process.  Many agencies contract with her, entrusting their files in order to provide these important services. Patricia also acts as a court appointed intermediary.

4. Opening Adoptions involving Minor Children

Families across the United States seek Patricia’s assistance in opening adoptions in order to establish contact between families by adoption and by birth. A leader in this area, Patricia has witnessed the multitude of benefits to the children and both their families when contact and relationships can evolve as in other families.

5. Open Adoption Education, Counseling and Support

Recognizing that truth and openness eliminate the need for secrecy, Patricia was a passionate voice and pioneer in the development of open adoption practice. She offers assistance at any point in time when you may wish to learn more about open adoption or seek support during the course of your adoption experience. She can assist you in the planning and exploration of a possible adoption between you as prospective adoptive parents and expectant parents who may be choosing adoption for your children.

6. Mediation and Short Term Counseling

Acknowledging the complexities of relationships, Patricia offers you mediation to assist your family deal with challenging situations.  By giving you a respectful voice and problem solving skills, she assists you to arrive at a peaceful coexistence. She also offers you short term counseling.

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Adult Adoptees' Views of Open Adoption

A report compiled by Heart of the Matter Seminars

293f3dde2203aed4769c089a8447f2ae LEE'S SUMMIT, MISSOURI - 1-28-2013 - Heart of the Matter Seminars announces the release of the data gathered by their survey which captured the voices of 281 adult adoptees.  Because of the amount of interest shown, HOTMS has decided to make the full report public.   

Heart of the Matter Seminars' conducted a survey of 281 adult adoptees on the topic of open adoption.  Since much of the research previously available focused exclusively on birth parent and adoptive parent interviews and surveys, our report is unique and provides compelling statistics for anyone interested in adoption. 

Heart of the Matter provides research based education and practical parenting tools for today's adoptive parents and professionals. Results from the survey will be used in the upcoming course entitled  . . . 

Opening up Open Adoption: What is it and is it right for you?

.  .  . scheduled for release next month

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Tuesday, January 8, 2013

HEART OF THE MATTER SEMINARS: Learning from Adult Adoptees


Heart of the Matter presents this week's revealing insight into open adoption as seen by 281 adult adoptees...

4th Sneak Peek!
OPEN ADOPTION: How They Described Challenges in Open Adoption

An interesting glimpse of the data gathered by HOTMS' survey that captured the voices of 281 adult adoptees. 

Complete report scheduled for release later this month!

New course entitled: Opening Up Open Adoption: What is it and is it for you?
Available for parents and professionals early 2013

Did you miss one of the first Sneak Peaks?
Never fear... they are available HERE!

Thursday, May 24, 2012

Our NEW Open Adoption Course will be Available Later this Summer...

 From Heart of the Matter Seminars...

"Creating our next course on open adoption is taking longer than expected, but I received a good reminder to be patient! We here at Heart of the Matter truly do believe in putting out quality courses that are worth taking!"
-Katie Sharp, Co-owner/Presenter
 
It will be worth the wait!

Join us on FACEBOOK for 1st availability!

Heart of the Matter Seminars
1508 SW White Ridge Drive
Lee's Summit, Missouri 64081
816-246-1100

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Help Needed: Open Adoption Survey

Dear Friends and Colleagues,

As many of you know, we are in the process of creating a new course for prospective adoptive families considering open adoption. We have been fortunate to have talked with many adoptive parents, birth mothers and adoption professionals, but have not found many adult adoptees.

We feel it is crucial for adoptees' voices to be heard in this course! To that end, we've created a brief online survey to be completed by adult adoptees (age 18 and up. The survey focuses on exactly what sort of contact/visits were had with various members of the birth family (in open adoptions), the benefits, the challenges and what they would say to families who are in the early years or just thinking about an open adoption.

We are asking for your help in reaching these folks by distributing the following link to the survey: http://app.fluidsurveys.com/s/openadopt/

Aside from sending the link to previous clients you've worked with, we'd like to ask you to send the link to your current families (as they may have friends or relatives with grown children who were adopted), place the link on your website and in your social media feeds such as Facebook and the like.

We appreciate your help and look forward to sharing the results and the new course with you and your families!

Mary Michele Hawkins
Heart of the Matter
816-246-1100