Thursday, May 10, 2018

International Adoption MUST Be Rescued.

By Jennifer Shaw
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International adoption has been declining at an alarming rate. Nearly 23,000 international children were adopted by U.S. families in 2004, but in 2016 less than 4,000 children were adopted, a drop of 80 percent. If this trend continues, international adoption will cease to exist by 2022. The United Nations estimates that 15 million children have lost both parents. Thousands upon thousands of children are waiting in institutions for families they can call their own. Here are five reasons I think international adoption needs rescuing:
Adoption saves lives
This may seem to go without saying, but I find that many people who have not looked into international adoption do not understand that for many vulnerable children, adoption to another country is their only chance to have a family. And in many cases, where medical care is poor or unavailable, it is their only chance to live. Our son, Noah, had been waiting with his paperwork completed for over five years. With his critical heart condition, no one had stepped forward, and even if a family in his birth country had been open to adopting him, the medical care he needed was not available there. He would have died without international adoption. Since joining our family at age 9, he has had life-saving surgery, a complete change in his quality of life physically, and the security and love of a permanent family. While I personally believe that children should stay with their birth families or be adopted within their birth culture if possible, the fact remains that there are a significant number of children for whom this is just not feasible. These children need international adoption, and we need to put the welfare of vulnerable children at the top of our priority list as a nation.

Monday, May 7, 2018

Armenian Children’s Day on Sunday, June 24th!

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We hope your family will join us in welcoming Mr. Albert Virabyan from the Ministry of Justice along with our beloved partner Rose Lavchyan on Sunday, June 24th here in High Point, NC.
The time and place will be announced soon.
****Be sure to add your name to this post if your family may be able to attend. We are so excited for both Mr Virabyan and Rose to be here and to see all of your children!!

The Best Street Style From Tbilisi Fashion Week Fall ’18

It’s always Fashion Week somewhere. The Resort 2019 season may have officially started in Paris with today’s Chanel show, but in Tbilisi, editors are still seeing the last of the Fall 2018 collections. The schedule ranges from It-girl favorite Situationist to up-and-comers like Tamra, Atelier Kikala, and Aznauri. Style du Monde street style photographer Acielle is on the ground covering the best looks. The job is no doubt a little more pleasant now that it’s actually warm: Editors, buyers, and models are embracing the sunshine in minidresses, lightweight suits, and even a Balenciaga car mat skirt (lest you forget, Demna Gvasalia hails from Tbilisi).
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Tuesday, May 1, 2018

4th NC Annual Youth Adoption Conference Registration is Now Open!

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Registration is now open for the 4th Annual Youth Adoption Conference sponsored by (NC) Mecklenburg County Youth and Family Services Division. This conference is only for FOSTER CARE YOUTH ages 10-18 who have any goal other than reunification. Only adults who are bringing youth to the conference are allowed to register. The conference will be held on Wednesday June 20, 2018 from 9:45AM to 3:30PM at (NC) Central Piedmont Community College-Harris Campus. Register your youth today because slots are limited!
You can register using the following link:
If you have any questions, contact us at dssadoption-events@mecklenburgcountync.gov.  
Kind Regards,
Mecklenburg County Youth Adoption Conference Committee

Wednesday, April 18, 2018

Regulatory Orphans – WORLD

Adoption advocates worry new rules on international adoption will leave more children languishing in orphanages

by Jamie Dean
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Orphans at the Zhytomyr Orphanage in Ukraine (Oleksandr Rupeta/NurPhoto/Getty Images)
When Michelet Joseph arrived in the United States in the summer of 2015, the small Haitian boy couldn’t pull up or stand up on his own.
Michelet was nearly 7 years old.
Born with hydrocephalus, Michelet was 11 months old when his mother died. His father had abandoned the family. Michelet spent the next year in a mountain village north of Port-au-Prince, lying on the floor while his grandfather farmed.
When Michelet’s grandfather could no longer care for him, the toddler went to live in a nearby orphanage run by American missionaries. At 2 years old, Michelet was malnourished, couldn’t hold up his head, and was covered in sores.
In the fall of 2011, a visiting neurosurgeon from the United States performed surgery to relieve Michelet’s hydrocephalus, but his tiny body had atrophied, and he was unable to use his legs. Haitian hospitals didn’t have the resources for the rehabilitation and additional surgeries he’d need in the future.

Friday, April 13, 2018

Webinar: Registration is Now Open for Perspectives on Transracial Adoption

Perspectives on Transracial Adoption
Perspectives on Transracial Adoption is an honest dialogue about some of the tough realities and complex issues that children adopted transracially may experience and how their parents can guide, support and prepare them for a society that is far from color blind.
Join us for a moderated panel of people who were transracially placed. They will reflect back to their childhood as well as comment on their current feelings about being transracially adopted.
We will post to the panelists YOUR questions such as:
When and how do I discuss race with my child?
What should I as a parent do to ensure connection with my child’s birth culture?
What did their adopted parents do that helped them through the journey and what do they wish their parents had done?

This webcast is brought to you by ALP in cooperation with Our Children: An Education & Empowerment Series. Learn more about the Our Children Initiative here.

Tuesday, April 3, 2018

Keeping Your Marriage Solid When Adopting or Fostering by Creating A Family

“One of the wisest pieces of advice I received as a new parent was the following: The greatest gift you can give your child is a healthy and happy relationship with your spouse. Four kids later all I can add is a loud “AMEN”!” by Creating A Family. #SaveAdoptions
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It is so easy in the thralls of new parenthood to be completely obsessed with your new baby or child. It is also pretty common to be completely overwhelmed by the demands of new motherhood/fatherhood. This is the case regardless whether you adopt a newborn, a 6 year old, or foster a sibling group of 3. Parenthood can be all-consuming if we let it. I’m suggesting that you don’t let it consume your marriage.

Parenting is a Marathon, not a Sprint!

You’re going to be parents for a LONG time. Even when your kids are grown and have flown the nest, you will still be parenting. It’s easy to forget this at the beginning. When asked in the Creating a Family Facebook Support Group what they were doing to find time for their marriage, we heard the following:
  • Not Much. But we’re older parents and I guess we had time before to ourselves so we’re kind of ok with all family time. We go out maybe every 6 weeks or so. We’ve kind of turned more into best friends and partners in crime but we’re ok with that.
  • We are fostering and parenting and all our time and energy are going to the kids. I feel like we give each other only our leftovers. And lately neither of us have much left over. We know we need to do something about it, but just don’t have the energy or time to do it.
  • We don’t. DH and I are lacking. We try to have alone time in the car or at 2 am, but it’s hard.
For the record, alone time when you are passing in the hallway at 2:00 am does not count!

Sunday, March 25, 2018

Road to foreign adoption leads to happiness

A big thank you to the Homan family for such a great story of advocacy in addition. #saveadoptions.
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By Sydney Albert
FORT RECOVERY – The adoption process is a long and challenging road that can sometimes end in heartbreak.
A local mother who has adopted internationally five times, however, says welcoming a child in need into the family is well worth the effort.
Alison Homan and her husband, Ted, had always wanted a big family. They had said they wanted four children, and during the first two and a half years of marriage, Alison Homan delivered three babies. However, one child didn’t live long after birth, and the back-to-back pregnancies were taking their toll on Homan, who didn’t feel she could handle another one.

Monday, March 19, 2018

URGENT, please take action

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There are two easy steps you can take today to help save international adoptions:
  • First, sign our White House petition. The White House promises it will respond if the petition receives 100,000 signatures in 30 days.
  • Second, we also invite you to share it on Facebook, Instagram, or other social media platforms and to invite your friends and family (anyone over 13 years of age with an email address can sign)to sign the White House petition.
15 million orphans globally have lost both of their parents.
81 million Americans have considered adoption, but for many it is too complex and too expensive.
International adoptions by Americans have plummeted by 81% since 2004, from about 23,000 adoptions in 2004 to only 4,200 international adoptions budgeted in 2018 by the international adoption accrediting entity. If this dramatic trend in international adoptions by Americans continues, international adoptions may completely end by 2022.
Mary Landrieu, Former United States Senator and former Co-Chair of the Congressional Coalition on Adoption, recently said: “Congress passed the Hague Convention on Inter-country Adoption believing that this action would pave the way for a more ethical, transparent and streamlined process for inter-country adoption. We were moved by the overwhelming number of abandoned children in the world and their obvious need for loving families. We pushed hard for passage, and the State Department was designated by Congress as the lead for implementing this important initiative. Sadly, several years later, it is clear that this decision was a tragic mistake. Instead of shoring up the process and providing support for sending countries, the State Department has twisted the intent of the treaty to close one country after another. The process has become far more cumbersome and far less transparent. American parents who want to help and lovingly raise a child are often made to feel like criminals. As a result, inter-country adoptions have fallen to an historic low, and they continue to decrease each year as the need of desperate, abandoned, and orphaned children increases. Major change is required now before it’s too late.”
We recognize a child’s right to a family when one is not available in his/her birth country and the loving character of American families. We ask President Trump and Secretary of State Pompeo to investigate the causes of the 80% decline in intercountry adoptions since 2004 and to solve the U.S. international adoption crisis. The leadership of the Office of Children’s Issues has been unresponsive to collaborating with adoption community leaders to solve problems and continues to reinterpret regulations in ways unintended by Congress in the Hague Intercountry Adoption Act. The adoption community including agencies, attorneys, adoptive parents, and adoption advocate organizations stands ready to work with the Administration on implementing various achievable solutions that have been identified by adoption leaders.
Together, we will make a difference in the lives of orphans around the world. Thank you.

Prepare for your MIND TO BE BLOWN….. But First Consider Signing This WHITE HOUSE Petition!

Dear Friends, family and, colleagues,
Next week will be exciting and should be a monumental in causing change in the State Department of Intercountry Adoption.  A mind blowing article should come out Monday morning in the Federalist and Tuesday morning Nathan Gwilliam, CEO of Adoption.com and Save Adoptions’President, Ron Stoddart, Esq., will be on the Glenn Beck Program. Put these on your calendars to catch them both.  You don’t want to miss these!! 
However, since the most effective route to change is through the White House, we have also created an online Petition to the White House at:
Please click on the link, read the petition and, if you agree, sign it today.  The White House guarantees they will respond if we have 100,000 signatures within 30 days – but we want to reach 100,000 by the end of the day on Wednesday.  We can do this with your help.
PLEASE, go to the Petition and sign now.  Then, please send this on to your friends and family and post it on social media.  We can’t leave any stone unturned.  On behalf of the thousands of orphaned children who will find permanent families because of your help – THANK YOU! (After signing this WH petition, Hit reply and let me know you have remained a friend to 15 million orphans that I’m working every day and night to serve – Just ask my own family and the Hopscotch families we work with every single day)
*IMPORTANT: Check your clutter/spam/junk mail to ‘verify’ your email after signing the petition or your signature will not be counted.